Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Down the Toilet




This week has been challenging...Out of the blue, I decided to potty train Ayden this past sunday...no plan of attack, no prep work, no idea how-to other than tell him to "pee in the potty; not on the floor" and make him sit there every hour.

After 3 days, countless accidents (we ran out of pants by lunch of second day) and much more frustration (from both parties involved), I broke down!  You see, Ayden is a very stubborn toddler and currently in full "no/not now/no way" mode.  And as it turns, his mother (moi) is an even more stubborn woman!  For those of you who know me personally will testify that when I decide something, I go cold turkey no turning back.

I'm a very driven, determined and persuasive person.  These personal traits proved to be very successful in the business world (my old life); not so much with a 2 1/2 yr old boy who's not ready to be diaperless!  My downfall is my pride: I don't like to ask for help (not good especially when I have no idea what I'm doing) and that I don't like a defeat!  In consequence, I've been on edge and had a mini breakdown this morning after a "funny" comment my hubby made (he thought it would lighten up the mood; I told him it was stupid and insensitive; he snapped back at me; I started sobbing and could no longer retain myself).

Other casualties over the past 3 days are Ayden (now thinks I'm punishing him by putting him on the potty), Olivia (being somewhat neglected) and my mom (let's just say my tone has not been as friendly).  Feeling like a "bad mom", I'm in much need of some zen time.  So after my yoga class & lunch, I went to my comfort zone: blogging, strawberries and Nutella!  It's my peace & quiet time...for another two hours or so when I have to go pick up Ayden...then it's more potty time!  Yey!!!



4 comments:

  1. aww, sorry to hear that. when all else fails, try bribing. my kids liked doing a sticker chart - getting a sticker each time they went to the potty successfully. then ever 5-10 stickers they get a treat. good luck!

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    1. I hear that a great approach...only my son won't even pee in the potty. So far, he did once involuntarily and I gave him candy and did the whole dance!!! But I'm still gonna go get a calendar/stickers and try this afternoon...hope it'll go better!

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  2. Bribery worked on me, too. My pre-school would not admit me (we're talking early 80's here) unless I was 100% potty-trained. Like you, my mom excels in an office setting but being a patient, nurturing potty-training fairy was not her thing. So we made a deal...I negotiated myself the Barbie pool (a pretty penny in those days) and miraculously I was potty-trained overnight. This might work for you if your son has his eye on a special something. As part of the terms of the negotiation you can specify that if he cannot maintain consistency then he'll have to part with the toy until he can get back on the wagon. Hope this helps.

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    1. UPDATE: Thanks for all the advice and support! Somehow (maybe my son read my blog post, but I doubt it...), he just went pee pee on his own after I picked him up from daycare!!! It was just the motivation I needed. By 5th day, he even pooped! I'm so proud of him! Yey for Ayden!!!

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